I had my own notion of grief. I thought it was the sad time that followed the death of someone you love, and you had to push through it to get to the other side. But I’m learning that there is no other side. There is no pushing through, but rather, there is Absorption, Adjustment,Acceptance. And grief is not something you complete, but rather you endure. Grief is not a task you finish and move on, but an element of yourself ~ an alteration of your being. A new way of seeing. A new definition of self.
We are the grieving grandparents, the shepherds of our children and grandchildren’s lives. Our grief is two-fold and at times we feel powerless to help. We seek to comfort our children in the depths of their grief and yet we need the time and space to face our own broken hearts. We have been robbed of the special tender touch a grandparent shares with a grandchild and we have lost a symbol of our immortality. As we walk by our child’s side, we both give and draw strength. We reach into their hearts to comfort them, and when they reach out to us in their distress, we begin the journey to heal together. We continue to be their guardians. We allow traditions to change to accommodate their loss. We support the new ones which symbolize the small steps on their journey. It is in their healing that our hearts find comfort. ~Susan Mackey, TCF, Rutland, VT
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